Tips & Ideas from Lovers Things

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Pain During Sex: Common Causes and When to See a Doctor
Sex that hurts isn’t something you have to push through. Here’s what pain during sex can mean depending on where and when you feel it, what helps right now, and... Read more...
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Why Can’t I Orgasm? Common Reasons and What Actually Helps
Can’t orgasm, or it takes forever? You’re far from alone. Here are the most common reasons, from the type of stimulation to stress and medication, plus evidence-based steps that help... Read more...
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Mismatched Libido: What to Do When One Partner Wants More Sex
One of you wants sex more often than the other? You're far from alone. Here's why sex drives differ, what research suggests actually helps, and how to talk about it... Read more...
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How Often Should You Get Tested for STIs ?
Not sure when you're "due" for an STI test? This guide explains how often to get tested based on your situation, how long to wait after sex for a reliable... Read more...
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Sex After Menopause: What Changes and How to Keep Intimacy Enjoyable
Menopause can change desire, comfort and arousal, but it doesn’t have to end your sex life. Here’s what actually changes, what helps at home, which medical options are worth asking... Read more...
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How to Feel More Confident in Bed (Even When Body Worries Creep In)
Ever caught yourself worrying about how you look in the middle of an intimate moment? You’re far from alone. Here’s why body worries show up during sex, what research says... Read more...
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How to Use a Condom Correctly: 9 Common Mistakes to Avoid
Think you know how to use a condom? Research shows small mistakes are surprisingly common. Here's the step-by-step method, the 9 errors to avoid, and what to do if a... Read more...
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How to Choose Your First Vibrator: A Beginner's Guide
Not sure where to start with vibrators? Here's how to choose your first one calmly: which type suits you, which materials are body-safe, what features actually matter, and how to... Read more...
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How Long Should Foreplay Last? What Research Says
Is there a “right” amount of foreplay? Research suggests many couples would like a little more time than they get. But the clock matters less than variety, communication and the... Read more...
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Vaginal Dryness: Common Causes and What Actually Helps
Dryness during sex or day-to-day isn’t something you just have to put up with. Here’s what causes vaginal dryness, how lubricants and moisturisers differ, what the research actually shows, and... Read more...
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How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex (Without the Awkwardness)
Wishing your partner just knew what you wanted? Talking about sex can feel scarier than having it, but it’s a skill anyone can learn. Here’s why the conversation feels so hard,... Read more...
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Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire: Why You Don’t Always “Feel Like It” First
Not in the mood until things get going? You’re not broken. Learn the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, what the research really says, and simple ways to make room... Read more...
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How to Clean Sex Toys: A Simple, Safe Guide by Material
Keeping your toys clean takes two minutes and protects your body, your partner and your purchase. Learn how to clean sex toys by material, when soap beats toy cleaner, how... Read more...
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How to Find the Right Condom Size (and Why It Matters)
Not sure which condom size you need? Here’s how to measure in two minutes, what the numbers on the box mean, and how to tell if your condom is too... Read more...
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Water-Based vs Silicone vs Oil Lube: Which One Should You Use?
Not sure which lube to choose? Here’s how water-based, silicone and oil lubes compare — and which ones are safe with condoms and toys. Read more...